This is a comprehensive list of tips for the expecting muslim women from the first trimester till the birth of the baby. Must read for the first time Muslim moms.Top Tips for pregnant Muslimahs :
1. Be thankful to Allah for this ni’mah. Offer a sajda of shukr as soon as you receive the news and pray 2 nafl rakahs of shukr before you rush to inform everyone. It’s better to wait at least 3 months before making it public. Do not invite envy and evil eye by making boisterous declarations on social media. Stay discreet and safe.
2. There is no authentic narration that a particular surah has to be recited during pregnancy. However, the baby in womb can hear the outside noises from 4th month onwards. So, it is encouraged that the mother introduce the Quran to the baby while in the womb itself. Play Quran so that the baby can listen to it. Also, make it a goal to recite entire Quran at least once during your pregnancy.
4. Pray for a safe, easy, healthy pregnancy; normal and easy delivery and breastfeeding experience during every prayer. Avoid sins and increase in ibadah.
5. Pray for the health and ease of other expecting women, the angels say “ameen and to you too.”
Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no Muslim servant who supplicates for his brother behind his back except that the angel says: For you the same.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2732
6. Create a dua list for your baby and make those duas regularly. A Mother’s dua for her child is not rejected. Build up a bright future for your baby by making a complete and perfect dua list for him.
7. In the first and last trimesters you will be waking up several times in the night to use the washroom. And sleep also becomes difficult, use this time to make dua as it may coincide with tahajjud and midnight when duas are readily accepted.
8. Make use of all the times when the dua is answered. After azan, at midnight and tahajjud, at breaking of fast, at the end of fard prayer, in the hour before maghrib on friday, during rain, while traveling etc.
Ask your mother to make dua for you. Also your father, the sick and the oppressed ones. Their duas are readily accepted.
9. Control your thoughts. Stay positive and imagine good, positive, happy things. Your pregnancy mind will try to take you in the opposite direction. Try to keep yourself happy and upbeat and do not rely on anyone else to cheer you up.
10. Hormones can make you mean and nasty. They could also make you hate your husband or anybody and everybody around you. Control your tongue and temper. Be patient. It will seem like forever but this arduous journey will end and you will be back to your normal self. This time will pass but you will later regret the words you have spoken.
11. Take help. Hire a maid. Buy a dishwasher, upgrade to fully automatic washing machine, prepare meals in batches, order food, let your husband help or ask someone to come and stay with you. Do whatever it takes to make it easy for you. Allah has described pregnancy in the Quran as “weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, ”
“His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.” (Surah Luqman : 14) – Quran
So do not shy away from help or act brave and try to do it all yourself and putting to risk yours and baby’s health. Do seek help whenever you need it.
12. Mood swings, tantrums, emotional outburst to an extent are all common but if you think they are getting out of control, mention it to your doctor and get tested for depression. If undiagnosed it can be harmful to mother and baby.
13. Seek help from both experienced mommies and new mommies. Our grandmothers and mothers have been there and done that several times, and they have assisted their sisters and other female relatives, witnessed many pregnancies and deliveries. So they know a lot from their experience. Do listen to them. Also important is help from recent mothers as a few things have changed and you can get this information only from them. For eg. : My mother is unaware of “swaddling” practice and was disapproving of it but my sister in law told me about it and I am really thankful to her for that as it really helped my baby sleep longer.
14. Make full use of technology. Download whattoexpect and babycenter apps and join helpful facebook groups like “Pregnancy and childbirth in the kingdom” to connect with mommies who are in the same boat.
15. Attend classes, hire a doula, childbirth professional or educator if you can afford to gain hands on knowledge, learn the techniques of pain management and to achieve all natural, unmedicated birth.
16.Be informed. Educate yourself. Read books. The best book is definitely WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU ARE EXPECTING. Research online.Ask your doctor. Learn about pregnancy safe diet and exercises, epidurals, episiotomy, induction, labour, anesthesia and create a birth plan in advance. Be confident in your abilities. Arm yourself with knowledge and aim for a natural birth. Remember Allah(swt) has made us capable of this.
A very helpful facebook group.(Based in Saudi and majority are Muslim members.
17. Also, learn about breastfeeding, it doesn’t come naturally to everybody and for some people it’s not as easy as it looks. Many issues can prop up and its better to learn about it beforehand than regret later. Many first time mothers are concerned only till delivery, they pray for normal and healthy delivery and they achieve that alhumdulillah, but they may face difficulties in breastfeeding which comes as a total shock to them.
Read up about supply, latching issues, different latching positions, engorgment, foods to eat and avoid and tips to make the milk “come in” early. Educate yourself about breast pumps and different methods of milk expression.
Refer www.kellymom.com and the book: “The womanly art of breastfeeding.”
18. Decide a name for both boy and girl. It is one of the major responsibilities of a parent. And you have nine complete months to do that. So, don’t slack and choose a name with good meaning.
19. Get rid of habits/sins you don’t want in your child as “Children follow your example and not your advice.”
20. Again, no particular duas or surahs has been reported to be recited during labour. So, you can make dua in your own language or any dua or surah that you think can help you.
Authentic duas during pain and distress :
In the name of Allah. (three times)
1– I take refuge in Allah and within His omnipotence from the evil that I feel and am wary of. (seven times)”
(بِسْمِ الله (ثَلاثاً( أَعُوذُ باللهِ وَقُدْرَتِهِ مَنْ شَرِّ مَا أَجِدُ وَأُحَاذِرُ. (سبع مرات)
2-Recite Surah Falaq & Naas for pain: –
Narrated by A’isha رضي الله عنها that When Nabi ﷺ suffered from some pain, He ﷺ recited Mu’auwwadhat (Surah Falaq & Surah Naas) in His Heart & blew (them over Him). When the pain became severe, I recited (them) over Him & wiped Him with His Hand in the hope of its blessing.
[Abu Dawud: 3902; Book. 29; English Book. 28; Hadeeth. 3893]
I suggest the following for their meanings:
1. Surah Fatiha
2. Allahumma la sahla illa ma ja’altahu sahla, wa ‘anta taj-alul hazna idha shi’ta sahla
Meaning: “O Allah! There is nothing easy except what You make easy, and You make the difficult easy if it be Your Will.” Link
اللّهُـمَّ لا سَـهْلَ إِلاّ ما جَعَلـتَهُ سَهـلاً، وَأَنْتَ تَجْـعَلُ الْحَـزَنَ إِذا شِـئْتَ سَهـْلاً
3. Ya hayyu ya qayyum birahmatika astageeth (Tirmidhi)
Meaning : “O Living, O Sustaining, in Your Mercy I seek relief!”
And call out to Allah with these names:
Ya Rahman(The beneficent)
Ya raheem(The merficul)
Ya qawi(The strong one)
Ya Wali(The supporter)
Ya muhiyy(The one who gives life)
Make lot of duas during labor as they have a high chance of being answered as we are in a lot of pain. Make dua for all the pregnant sisters and also for those who are trying to conceive.
Do lots of dhikr, astaghfar to ease the process.
21. Give the best start to your child’s life by learning about correct procedures of tahneek, aqeeqah and circumcision according to sunnah of Prophet Muhammad(P.B.U.H.)
22. Make dua for the best and prepare yourself but in the end, if things don’t go according to your plan, don’t fret and accept graciously whatever Allah(swt) has decreed for you. Indeed, “Whatever happens, happens for best.”
May Allah(swt) make it easy on all expecting women and bless them and all the sisters who are trying to conceive with healthy, pious children who take us closer to Jannah. Ameen.
How was your journey of pregnancy? Are there any islamic tips during pregnancy you want to add here? Do let me know in the comments..